Conscious Parenting Moment:
After being home sick for three days DS3 entered meltdown mode with homework, literally in tears over not being able to understand or complete his math test review, and insisting that it wouldn’t help to look in the book. Not appreciating my suggestions to ask the teacher the next day or look in the book he was beside himself with frustration and upset. I began to get really frustrated too and then told him I’d be happy to help him once he collected himself and presented his textbook! I realized that my frustration was not going to be helpful or move the situation forward. After a few minutes he calmed down and we were able to (easily) find the information we needed to solve about 20 problems in 5-10 minutes. As simple as that! (And he confidently took the test yesterday and did great.)
The lesson: Give your children the space they need to feel what they are feeling. Sometimes I find there is more going on than the situation at hand. Being a teenager isn’t easy, and as much as you can be a loving and gentle presence in their life, your child will learn that it is safe to express himself or herself around you, and to feel what they feel. They will also learn about solving problems effectively, and that there is no need for contention.
How can you give your child the space they need to feel what they feel and to be who they are?
What will this do for them, for you, and for your relationship?